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WITH NOVA, A TEEN IN FOSTER CARE
WHO WANTS NOTHING MORE THAN A
FOREVER FAMILY



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Award-winning Returnable Girl--Now available on Kindle!

AWARDS


EXCERPT FROM RETURNABLE GIRL

“Veronica Hartman has been returned nine times between the ages of eleven and thirteen.”
That’s what it says in my file, but if you include the return by my uncle and Raylene the week before Christmas almost two years ago, then it really has been a total of ten times--so far. The last time, I got kicked out of Lancaster Academy for throwing a pair of scissors at my art teacher. And the time before that, I buried my foster mother’s keys in the backyard behind the barn. That number doesn’t include the times I had to stay at the shelter, or the overnight emergency placements; I can’t even remember most of those.
“All that returning can do some damage,” Alison says, “but you’ve got to find ways to cope.”
Alison Hauser is my foster mom (at the moment) and she’s also a therapist. She hasn’t returned me yet, and I’ve been with her over three months, but that doesn’t mean she won’t. Lately, I guess, she’s been considering it. Like this morning, for instance, after I threw the frozen can of orange juice across the kitchen.
“I’m not a thief!” I screamed at her as I let the can fly.

RETURNABLE GIRL
AVAILABLE IN PAPERBACK
(Marshall Cavendish, 2009)


WINNER ALA'S POPULAR PAPERBACK 2010

INTERNATIONAL READING ASSOCIATION'S
YOUNG ADULT CHOICES LIST 2008

VOYA's TOP SHELF FICTION
FOR MIDDLE SCHOOL READERS 2006

American Library Association
2006 Quick Picks for Reluctant Young Adult Readers

New York Public Library
2007 Books for the Teen Age

Pennsylvania School Librarians Association
Titles for 2007

Cleveland Public Library
Y READ PROGRAM 2007

Columbus Library TEENSCONNECT "Fearless Female"

The Statewide New Jersey Summer Reading Program 2008


My agent is Susan Schulman who represents authors of Holes, Women Who Love Too Much, The English Patient, and many more! Contact Susan at Shulman@​aol.com for questions about rights or at 454 West 44th St. NY, NY

SPEAKING ENGAGEMENTS


2013
Kickimuit Middle School: How to parent your nasty, sneaky , lazy lovable teen April 2

Parenting Matters
Barrington High School
April 6

Bradly Hospital Speaker Series (with Leah Berg)
April 12
Increasing Permanency Outcomes for Children in State Care

2012

How to Parent your nasty, sneaky, lazy lovable ADOPTED teen
Adoption Rhode Island Feb 7

Parenting your nasty sneaky lazy lovable
pre-teen or teen
Parenting Matters Conference
Barrington High School March 17

Pathways to Permanency: Engaging Older Youth to Achieve
Positive Outcomes. April 11-12th
Michigan State University


Communities For People
Foster Parent Training
April 19th


Past Speaking Engagements
February 6, 2011
Teens: Sex and Dating
Congregation Agudas Achim
Attleboro Rhode Island

March 19
Parenting Matters Conference
Barrington High School

April 1-3
Maine Festival of the Book
Portland Maine
www.mainereads.org
(With Julia Glass)

April 6
Allen Coventry Middle School
Parent Support Network

April 9
Making Connections
Adopted Kids, Teens and Families
Parenting Workshop
Adoption Rhode Island

October 19-20th
Think Tank Adoption and Foster Care
Presenter: Pre-post Adoption and Family Therapy a Clinical Perspective
Cleveland, Ohio

October 29th
Children's Book Festival
Barrington Books

December 23rd
Elmwood Community School Providence RI
TRAUMA DRAMA
Understanding how the Brain is Impacted by Trauma
Interventions that work in schools with Teens and Pre-Teens

2010
The Opposite of RAD
Forming Healthy Attachments in Families
Adoption RI

La Salle Academy Honors Night
Protect it, Use it or Lose It
Getting the Most Mileage Out of Your Teen Brain


Parenting Matters sponsored by Bradley Hosptial
Barrington High School
How to Raise Out-of-Control Teenagers
Empowering parents to restore respect, love and sanity to their
families


ADOPTION COMMUNITY OF NEW ENGLAND
The Perfect Storm: Weathering the turbulent adolescent years with your adopted pre-teen or teen

Lincoln High School and Middle School
Sponsored by
Lincoln Task Force on Substance Abuse
USE IT OR LOSE IT. How to make the most
out of your teen's amazing, changing yet vulnerable...brain.
A workshop for smart parents and their very awesome teens.

La Salle Academy
VISITING AUTHOR'S GRANT 2010

ACONE RHODE ISLAND TEEN CONFERENCE
Featured Presenter

BOOK EXPO AMERICA
NEW YORK CITY

NARRAGANSETT HIGH SCHOOL
SPORTS NIGHT

PRINCETON CHILDREN'S BOOK FESTIVAL

RHODE ISLAND COLLEGE
Continuing Education
They are Teens First(The not so secret lives of foster and adopted teens)

Adoption Rhode Island:Book Club for Teens

ACONE "TRAUMA DRAMA" Identifying and treating traumatized teens.(Adoption Community of New England)Professional Day
Westborough MA April 2008

Community Action Foster Care Training
Woonsocket

LaSalle Parent Night

READING WITH ROBIN 866-920-WHJJ (920AM)

Tannerhill Adoption Agency

Rhode Island College Social Work Class

St. Mary's Foster Home Staff and Foster Parent Training

MOMTALKRADIO 2006

GORDON INDEPENDENT SCHOOL in Providence, RI
Wed. Jan. 24
Gordon's Book Fair

Tea With Marie Channel 13 RI

At Providence College Social Work Class

The Resiliant Child Series ADOPTION RHODE ISLAND

Barrington High SchoolBlogging and Podcast

NATIONAL FOSTER PARENT CONFERENCE WASHINGTON DC 2007

BookExpo America (BEA)New York City

Connecticut Association Foster Parents June 2007

Barnes and Nobel Warwick RI

Author Series Philips Memorial Baptist Church

Caritas Dinner and Silent Auction Keynote

"Let's talk Adoption" Conference
Rutgers University

NJ Author Talk Bayview Commons

Bayside YMCA Author Book Club

Already in 2014, 124,086 kids in foster care have had to celebrate their birthdays without a permanent family. By the end of the year, this number will reach 513,000.

www.adoptionri.org

Counseling Services


Author photograph courtesy of Greg Spiess

I am a licensed clinical social worker with a private practice at 146 Anoka Ave Suite 200 in Barrington, RI 02806. For overy twenty-five years I have specialized in treating Women, Teens (and tweens and younger kids, too) and their Families in the areas of behavior problems, depression, eating disorders (including support for the Maudsley approach to family re-feeding), ADHD, loss and trauma, self-care, anxiety (see article), and addiction in the family. Some of my work is with families formed by domestic and international adoption. I use cognitive behavioral therapy, parent-child therapy and EMDR evidence-based treatment techniques. I believe healthy attachments can be formed with the right kind of counseling, and that every family deserves love, respect and healthy connections. If you live in the area and want to try to schedule an appointment you can contact me by email, as I check my messages daily. Please note my office address is 146 Anoka Ave. Suite 200 Barrington RI
email: palwrites@​aol.com Office phone 401-484-2476




Speaking Engagements


I have presented programs about adolescents at national and state-wide conferences, conducted training and parent education seminars at public and independent schools. For more information click above "workshop" tag.


For information on speaking opportunities including fees, available dates, or for any other reason email me directly at palwrites@​aol.com

SPRING 2010. MARSHALL CAVENDISH

Early Praise for Spotting for Nellie

Booklist: Top-level gymnastics and the teenage years come across as comparably challenging and perilous in Lowell’s second YA novel…the book offers up a compelling picture of high-school kids in a coastal Rhode Island town. Told in short chapters from different points of view, the story focuses on two sisters, Claire and Nellie, and the fallout from a terrible car accident related to underage drinking. In a nice twist, one of the viewpoints is that of “Nellie’s brain,” who narrates from the comatose state and as Nellie relearns motor skills, communication, and self-control. A clinical social worker, Lowell nicely captures the way teens talk, think, and contend with multiple pressures. Her dialogue can get didactic. . .but the main characters prove very appealing and the story’s moral clarity may actually help young readers make better decisions.
— Abby Nolan





"I thought it was excellent and I could really tell that you had put a lot of time, not to mention, extensive research. I thought it was very interesting too, like how it showed perspective from Nellie's brain. I thought that was really cool. I also liked how you hit upon some heavy topics, like teen drinking and accidents and peer pressure. It was definitely one of the best books I've read this year! I hope that you come out with another book soon!"
--Lilia, a sophomore

In November 2008
I received a
Community Partner Award
from Adoption Rhode Island
in recognition of my support of children waiting for adoption.
I am now a consultant at Adoption Rhode Island
doing clinical supervision, case consultation and
training.



Foster Care Alumni of America


I am proud to be a "professional" member of Foster Care Alumni of America. FCAA connects the community of people who have been in foster care into a large extended family network. By working with others who care about foster youth, FCAA transforms foster care practice and policy. Whether you are an alumnus of foster care, a foster parent or professional, or caring community member, please show your support and make your voice heard by joining FCAA today.